Couples Counseling

I've dated.

A LOT.

Image your messiest friend...

Nope, even messier than that...

Yup, that was me all throughout my 20's.

Eventually, I got married.

Then divorced.

And it was devastating...

My saving grace was that during the relationship,
I had become a newly minted therapist who was
SURROUNDED by a team of therapist friends
Who read me the RIOT ACT about what healthy relationships were.

And trust me, it was brutal and not kind, but majorly eye-opening.

Ultimately, we weren't able to save the marriage because
The foundations of the relationship were entirely wrong.
But that was ok.

Even though the process was hard, it opened my eyes to what relationships are.
To what healthy relationships SHOULD be,
And this later paid off to the healthiest and most stable relationship I've ever been in.

That was what got me started on my work with couples,
And later by extension,
Open relationships and polyamory.

How Couples Therapy Works:

When it comes to couples therapy, every therapist is WILDY different because
Each relationship and what each relationship needs is different.

My belief as a therapist is there are only two requirements for a relationship to make it:

1) There is mutual effort.

2) There is mutual base compatibility.

Applying some basic relationship forms and drawing from my background training as a mediator,
I found success is by meeting with the couple via audio only and the couple in separate rooms,
because it VASTLY helps partners who are afraid to speak up and ACTUALLY deal with the issues at hand.

As the therapist, my role is provide space, feedback, and accountability within discussions.
The couples role is to choose the topic to discuss and engage in the conversation.

I've been told that I have a gift for couples therapy.

Allow me to bring this gift to you and your relationship.

Topics Addressed:
Healthy Couples, Dating, Coping Skills
Polyamory, Open Relationships, Codependency
Sex in Long-term Relationships, Infidelity
Narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder
Divorce, Coparenting, Mediation

"You have a gift for couples' work, Scott"