Working on your Attachment Style
"Thousands have lived without love,
None without water..."
-W.H. Auden
Touché, Mr. Auden...
Touché
Even though that's factually true,
I think I have something to say on that subject.
I started my career as a therapist
When a military friend of mine committed suicide
During the time period of the Iraq/Afghanistan War.
Originally, I was on track to become an ER Doctor
But I took a radical shift to mental health
Because
I believe
(Mr. Auden - listen up here)
That medicine kept people alive,
But did nothing to make them want to live.
Loneliness is a very real epidemic.
It turns out that when you start talking to people,
You find out that even people who you think are
Well adjusted
Carry around some real loneliness
That they never told anyone about.
I got into Attachment work because
Coming into the field,
I was a big brain and
I was gunna THINK my way through things and practically solve
ALL of my client's issues.
Turns out in therapy,
A lot of the problems are emotional issues,
Not practical issues.
Whoops.
I had to completely change the way I approached things.
Completely shifting my mentality and working with adults,
It turns out we have a lot of successful and wonderful people out here
Who are utterly decimated because they just don't know
How to have and keep meaningful relationships.
They hid in their logic and work
And kept people at a distance
Because they low key thought
That if they provided enough,
People would stick around without ever having to be vulnerable.
But see, here's the thing -
If you only offer people things they can USE,
Then why are we surprised that they USED you and moved on?
It's almost impossible to build a quality relationship without putting
Yourself on the table.
And that's what I do.
I teach people to figure out who they are,
Face their insecurities,
And make meaningful connections with the right people.
That includes evaluating and adjusting the relationships we already made.
That's what I do and why I work as a therapist in the first place.
I help people fix their relationship patterns,
Helping them accept and develop meaningful relationships.
Topics Covered:
~Fixing our Avoidant Attachment
~Getting in touch and dealing with our feelings
~Having healthy relationships
~Making friends
~Learning to date
~Issues with people pleasing
~Setting healthy boundaries
~Dealing with burnout at work and at home
~Building low self esteem
